The Best Gifts For Mothers Who’ve Endured Infant or Pregnancy Loss
When it comes to special holidays we celebrate like Mother’s Day or Birthdays it can be a painful time for someone who has lost a baby. Instead of celebrating, it can be a day that stands as a painful reminder of the child they lost. That is why receiving a gift specific to the mother’s needs is so important.
I have lost four babies throughout different stages of pregnancy. There were several Mother’s Days that grief would hit me all over again. I wanted to be acknowledged as a mother even though I didn’t have anything to show for it.
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Why You Can’t Give Generic Gifts to Mothers of Infant or Pregnancy Loss
There are numerous generic gifts you can give mothers, but a grieving mother’s gift should be unique and catered to her needs.
You don’t want the gift to over look their sadness, but you don’t want it to necessarily be full of cheer. If you are wanting to give someone a gift who is walking through this tender season of life, you want and need to make sure your gift comes from the heart.
As a mother who has lost babies, I treasure the gifts people have given me through the years. Sometimes it was a simple rose given to all the mothers of my church that helped me feel included and other times it was a very sweet and precious gift meant to tug at my heartstrings in a good way.
Read along to find out what meaningful gifts you can give a grieving mother to show her that you care. This is an extension of my previous post about what to say to a friend who lost a baby.
50+ Infant and Pregnancy Loss Gifts
Jewelry
I wanted to start with jewelry because the pieces I have been given are so dear to me that I still wear them today- 10 years later. I mention the impact the gift of jewelry was in my book, Joy In Suffering.
Rosemary Pope
Many of these pieces are handcrafted from artisan jewelers.
Necklaces
Bracelets
Ornaments
I have a handful of ornaments on my tree dedicated to the babies I lost. They are a precious reminder of their lives and it gives an opportunity to talk about them with my living children.
Willow Tree Statues
Just about every mother who has lost a baby wants some place in their home to memorialize or remember their child- no matter how small they were. Willow Tree statues were some of my all-time favorite gifts to receive. These top four are just some of the few I received along my journey to motherhood.
My aunt gave me the “Guardian” after I lost my stillborn son, Enoch. My mother-in-law gave me the “Remember” after I carried my daughter who was “incompatible with life”. I received “Courage” from my mother while I was trying to conceive after two pregnancy losses. And “Angel of Mine” was given to me when I gave birth to my third child, Buddy.
As you see, these little statues are simply precious. There are several to choose from that can be the perfect gift for nearly any season of life.
Memorial Books
These are journals with prompts to help a grieving parent write out their memories of their babies to remember them- the happy and sad ones. Growing up I never considered myself a writer, but when I was writing my book this past summer I found journals I had wrote pieces of their story down in. If I had a memorial book, it would have been filled cover to cover.
Devotional Books
When I was pregnant with my daughter who was deemed “incompatible with life” I worked through a bible study with the ladies of my church. I clung to every word as a way for me be closer to God. I believe it helped me cope with what I was going through. These are devotional books to help a mother work through their grief.
Pregnancy Loss Books
When I was going through my pregnancy losses I would scour the internet for any stories I could relate to. Reading how others dealt with their similar trials helped me to know that I wasn’t alone and if other women could come out of this darkness so could I. **This list includes my personal story, Joy In Suffering.
Mugs
Who doesn’t love a good mug? These are cups with sweet reminders and scriptures to help a grieving mother through the hard times.
Showing you care through a gift
I hope you found something in this list that will show the mother you are shopping for that you love and care for her. If you still didn’t find something on this post that you feel could work for her, I’d recommend checking out:
Are you a Mama who has endured a pregnancy, infant, or even an older child loss? What is something that you were gifted that you treasure and thought was a sweet gift? I’d love to hear about it… leave your answer in the comments below.
~Rosemary Pope
What helped me was to work on an art show. I would turn the music up load and cut mats for other children’s artwork
I would also volunteer at a homeless center , normally I would serve food. This let me concentrate on someone else and do for others. This is what helped me the most! This was a gift to myself during days I didn’t think I could go in.
Those are good ideas! It always did me good to keep myself busy. It was usually when I wasn’t doing anything that my thoughts would get the best of me. Miss you, Ms. Mosby!
My husband bought me a little star pendant, with tiny diamond, in a way to say that our love for our baby would be forever.
That is so sweet and thoughtful of your husband to gift you something like that. <3
My daughter and soninlaw have been trying for a baby for 5 years. She has PCOS. 6 failed IUI’s and now, a failed 1st attempt at IVF. All private paid, due to jobs don’t cover them. So this is it. Out of the 18 eggs retrieved, only 3 made it thru the final process. 1 boy and 2 girls. She lost the boy in March. Everything was going well for 2 weeks, and then suddenly miscarriage. I want to give her something to have to remember the boy, Colton Scott. I also want to give her something to have faith for the 2 girls, as she will be trying again next month. I would welcome your suggestions for the perfect gifts. Thank you for your time